May 2012

How we interact with our children when emotions run hot is critical!

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As parents, our initial—and perhaps instinctual—reaction to our children’s negative emotions is to get rid of them and replace them with positive ones. This may be due to numerous reasons, including our own childhood experiences, where we learned that negative feelings are a sign of weakness, or our deep desire to always see our children happy. As parents, we want what’s best for our children, and many of us would instinctively say that our ultimate parenting goal is to raise a happy and well-adjusted child. Therefore, it makes sense that we may feel very uneasy when our children are upset. We may want to drop everything, run to their side, and tell them that it’s okay and that mommy or daddy will make them feel better. In some cases, we may feel desperately inclined to go to extremes by offering to purchase a toy or take a trip to a favourite restaurant in hopes of quickly extinguishing that terrible negativity our children are feeling. As a matter of fact, it may seem completely counterintuitive to encourage our children to sit with and explore their negative feelings rather than rescue them from those feelings.

kathyewaHow we interact with our children when emotions run hot is critical!
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