An invaluable amount of what a child learns every day is through what parents inadvertently model in daily mundane moments. I am not talking about when you sit down with your 10-year-old to discuss the impact of cyber-bullying, or when you allocate special time to play phonics cards with your four-year-old or even the evening story time you share with your child, bonding at the end of a long day. What I am referring to are the everyday moments that parents so often don’t pay much attention to.
Well, the small things do add up, and so do all of those mundane moments. These lead to some of the greatest impacts on how children see their parents and eventually mirror parental behaviours. Parents all too often view their children’s problems as being directly or indirectly caused by factors outside of the family, such as friends, TV, music videos, schools or even drugs and alcohol. I am not here to tell you that parents are always a direct cause of their children’s problems. Factors such as temperament and mental illness certainly play a significant role in children’s behaviour, and parental modelling is not the only contributing factor to problems in children. The psychology of human behaviour is multifaceted and often complicated; however, more often than not, parents need to be brave and open to accepting that sometimes the apple does not fall all that far from the tree.